Ok, ok, I may have over reacted. It isn't just my day. But I would like to live in the illusion that it is.
My Fiancé's parents must have realised the error they made in the way they reacted to the news. So last night they asked us to come over and gave us a lovely card and engagement gift. They also made much more of an effort to be friendly and talk to both of us.
We also announced to the world through the most prevalent social networking site of the moment that we had gotten engaged and it has become very clear, very quickly that we are going to have to have a party or two for our various friends to celebrate with us. It is funny but there are all these things that come up straight away after you get engaged that, as the couple we are, we just didn't think about at all. Like everyone asking "So when's the day?" We keep on having to answer we aren't too sure or in 2013. Everyone also wants to party with us and I suppose we were silly to think this way but it almost felt like the only people this news would be important to is us and our families.
We have already started to break with convention as we went to tell my Fiancé's best friend since he was a child and her other half that we are engaged last night, also to ask her to be his Best Man. We had always said that when we got married she would have to be his Best Man and getting engaged didn't change our minds at all. They were also so excited for us, it became apparent after talking to them for a few minutes that they had been waiting for my Fiancé to pop the question for so long that when we contacted them to ask could we come over they spent the day emailing each other about how excited they were. When we were about to break the news to them and we were himming and hawwing over it between us, our friend eventually just squealed "Just say it!" in a pitch only audible to dogs. That was exactly the reaction we had been hoping for from most of our friends and family so it was really refreshing to finally get it, and also to share our joy with them.
All in all a much better third day then I was expecting. We also got some great news about me health wise. This is just our week. Maybe I should go do the lottery?
Tuesday, 31 May 2011
Monday, 30 May 2011
The Day after "The Question"
Yesterday he asked me to marry him and I said yes. I said yes so exuberantly that I may have leapt across the car and knocked the handbrake off causing us to roll back down the hill we were parked on. We're hoping that makes for a pretty funny story and yet at the same time we don't care because it's our story!
We were are so happy that we want to tell everyone and shout our commitment from the roof tops. However, the reactions I have had so far have made me a little unhappy and I am already starting to become worried over the issues and arguments that are going to happen over the next 18 months or so, until the big day arrives. When ever I need a lift I just talk to my Fiancé and I feel all better.
His parents thought we were joking. So much so that we had to repeat ourselves four or five times till they took us seriously. Their reaction after that was to be thankful that we hadn't met them to tell them we were pregnant and that they hope it will be a long engagement. Now, I'm sorry, we are in our mid-twenties, own a house together and have been committed to each other for 3 years. What did they expect was going to happen that we were going to wait until we were thirty to get married. So obviously my in-laws to be just love me.
I also realised that many, many people are going to stick their oar in a tell me what they think I should be doing. It's only day two and I had to tell a friend of mine that it is my engagement and my wedding and so I will do whatever I want about both. If I want to start planning today I damn well will. If I want to wait and plan it in three months right before the day I will. If I want to elope I will.
So I am starting this blog as a way of venting any angers or sorrows I have over the months of preparation and also sharing the happiness and joy I have in all the little things I get to do with my Fiancé. This is not really for anyone else but if you happen to read it and like it or find it helps you at all please let me know.
We were are so happy that we want to tell everyone and shout our commitment from the roof tops. However, the reactions I have had so far have made me a little unhappy and I am already starting to become worried over the issues and arguments that are going to happen over the next 18 months or so, until the big day arrives. When ever I need a lift I just talk to my Fiancé and I feel all better.
His parents thought we were joking. So much so that we had to repeat ourselves four or five times till they took us seriously. Their reaction after that was to be thankful that we hadn't met them to tell them we were pregnant and that they hope it will be a long engagement. Now, I'm sorry, we are in our mid-twenties, own a house together and have been committed to each other for 3 years. What did they expect was going to happen that we were going to wait until we were thirty to get married. So obviously my in-laws to be just love me.
I also realised that many, many people are going to stick their oar in a tell me what they think I should be doing. It's only day two and I had to tell a friend of mine that it is my engagement and my wedding and so I will do whatever I want about both. If I want to start planning today I damn well will. If I want to wait and plan it in three months right before the day I will. If I want to elope I will.
So I am starting this blog as a way of venting any angers or sorrows I have over the months of preparation and also sharing the happiness and joy I have in all the little things I get to do with my Fiancé. This is not really for anyone else but if you happen to read it and like it or find it helps you at all please let me know.
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